Finally, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” and so is accountability, but some personalities do not want to be bothered. At all. Ever. These sorts want to make their beds once and be finished with the chore forever (and there isn’t much you can do to convince one who is done at “hello” that a majority of the problem lies in his approach), and if a person isn’t passionate or invested enough to be a good gardener than, yes, everything will seem like too much work or “high-maintenance.” A loving relationship is a privilege but growing and developing it (and yourself) are responsibilities.
Goldfish in a bowl are low maintenance and so is a cactus. Animal, fish or mineral, no matter, each is low maintenance but they are also low yield. There is no relationship or depth. You get nothing from them and other than to share a modicum of the air that you breathe they do not improve the quality of life or add to its meaning. A plant won’t listen to your problems about work, go out to dinner with you or cuddle up with you later that night (at least, I’d hope not). They merely sit and take up space. So, please, don’t offend me and dismiss me in the same breath with a high maintenance label because I have feelings or make me apologize for my complexities. (And, be careful: is the problem, truly, a high-maintenance broad--as it is usually men who affix this label to women--or is the accuser just a dullard, a man dead in the water who wants something for nothing?) Finally, “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” and so is accountability, but some personalities do not want to be bothered. At all. Ever. These sorts want to make their beds once and be finished with the chore forever (and there isn’t much you can do to convince one who is done at “hello” that a majority of the problem lies in his approach), and if a person isn’t passionate or invested enough to be a good gardener than, yes, everything will seem like too much work or “high-maintenance.” A loving relationship is a privilege but growing and developing it (and yourself) are responsibilities.
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Steve
1/10/2011 06:18:03 am
Nicely stated baby. You are too observant and what you said is very true. The difference between maintenance is the maintaner. To some a catus is too much wor and to the gifted hybrid lilies are a snap. It is the same with relationships the heart is the true guiding principal of the work laid out before us. I am sure we could all find a person that would consider us high maintenance but hopefully we wil find the one that loves us and does not consider us high maintenance. I love you baby.
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Georgi
1/11/2011 01:07:03 pm
Once again, Rita, you have encapsulated one of the most critical and fragile aspects of "relationship." The more a person loves, the more Christ-like they become and there is no such thing as burden, or "high maintenance." There is only the lover and the beloved!
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